Mother's Day - Just Another Day?

The day started rocky. The two oldest boys were at each others' throats, fighting over nothing. All kids where in a competition over who could listen to mom the least. Mom is talking - everybody scatter like a busted candy bag!

Happy Mother's Day.

By 9:20am, I was furious. Why aren't these kids listening? Must brothers fight about everything? Don't they know it's MY day?

No. They don't know. This day is the same to them as every other day. I'm their mother and they need mothering, just like every other day before.

Sure, their attitudes have been a little off kilter lately. They've been without friends and extended family for too long. Kids need social visits just as much as adults do. And now that the Safer-At-Home order has been lifted and we have been slowly transitioning back to seeing other people, they've gone psycho.

Yes, psycho.

It's like these kids have lost what tiny grip they had on their emotions, and there is no telling what will make them snap. Yes, friends -- our children have been thrown back into the terrible two's. An awful thing when our expectations for them are grander.

I'm sure my own tension has rubbed off on them. As much as I consciously try to hide my own anxieties and stress from my children, it bleeds through. It's a combination of my attitude, their attitudes, their inexperience with handling emotions, and the recent climate. It's a lot for anyone, kid or adult.

So when my kids starting losing their minds the morning on MY day, I had to remind myself that this is why I'm here. This is why I'm the mom. Not to yell back at them, but to help them work through the crazies.

I'm not telling you it was instant, or that I have some amazing child-whispering quality I used to make this day magic. I certainly don't.

In fact, I found myself frustrated a few times throughout the day. The thing is, this day isn't for my kids to act like miracle children. There are no perfect days in motherhood because there are no perfect kids and definitely no perfect mothers.

But we are perfect for each other. God chose me to be their mother. Not the lady down the street or June Cleaver. And every time that I may have felt like I was failing because I was stressed to the max or my kids were making Dennis the Menace look like sleeping angels -- God reminded me. He does not make mistakes.

Moms, if you were like me, wondering where your perfect Mother's Day was -- it's ok! It's ok to not have that serene spa day. It's ok to have a messy house and bad hair roots. It's ok to be yearning for the day your kids respond courteously and swiftly to your requests. And it's ok that today was not this day.

God designed you to be the mother. To be patient like Hannah, strong like Esther, and faithful like Ruth. You can do this, Momma. Mother's Day is a great reminder that God does not make mistakes. Whether you birthed these children or adopted them, God placed them in your hands with purpose.

Mother's Day is for you to remember you are special, especially in God's eyes.

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